Jun
2007
The Bad Mom Syndrome
Ahhh…. boy, I’m so tired and so frustrated. You ever just feel like the worst mom ever!? I try so hard to be perfectly patient and loving with my children, perfectly attentive to them, making sure they are loved and cherished like they deserve. But sometimes I just get in a rut where I am so short tempered. Today, Anna has been fussy and wanting to be held while I’m trying to do other things, and I just feel awful putting her down. But yet, I feel awful not keeping the house up or getting my work done for the business. It’s such an internal struggle… I feel guilty either way and I just get frustrated at her as I result. To top it off, my son is exhausted from going to camp this week and thus is not very cooperative come the evening hours. We’re also still struggling with getting him fully potty trained, and I’m just so frustrated with that whole thing. What I am doing wrong!?? As much as I try not to, I end up convincing myself that I was just never made for motherhood and I’m horrible at it. Admittedly, I’ve never really been a “kid-person”. I never ooggoogled over babies or was much of a babysitter in my younger days. I’m never one to ask to hold someone else baby or offer to watch people’s kids. I’m just feeling out of sorts, and it sure doesn’t help it when my kids are upset whether it be about going pooh in the potty or not being nursed even after she just ate!Does anyone else feel like the worst mom ever? It’s such a lie us women tell ourselves, I know. Nevertheless, we sit there and tell ourselves, “gee… could I be any worse at this?” Or “why can’t I just go this? Everyone can.” Well, I hope if you are reading this and can agree that you find comfort in the fact that someone else feels the same way, and someone else is praying for you. If you have any thoughts, feel free to post a comment or use my new contact me form if you just want to share with me privately!God love you!
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Just found your site and oh, boy, can I relate. I never thought I’d be much good as a mom (much to my own super mom’s dismay) and here I am with seven boys. There are days when I long for the convent! My just-turned-three is struggling with the toilet training thing, and the three month old is a different person every day. (I like baby-happy and baby-sleepy, but baby-cranky drives me nuts.) I’m not artistic or athletic or particularly holy, so sometimes I wonder why God called me to this life.
My wonderful husband is my mainstay (after my faith!). He’s taught me how to relax and not worry so much. “You’re a great mom — the kids are happy and healthy,” he tells me.
Just take each day as it comes, and God bless! I’ll be praying for you, too!
Comment by freddy — June 22, 2007 @ 1:10 pm
Thanks, Freddy for your empathy! It’s comforting to know that there are other women/moms that feel the same way. Have you heard the expression: “God doesn’t call the qualified; He qualifies the called.” Praise be to God!
Comment by mom — June 23, 2007 @ 10:16 pm